Counselling for Men in Transition in Victoria, BC
A confidential, judgment-free space, in English or French, in person in Victoria or online across British Columbia.
Many men come to counselling at a turning point: something that seemed solid has shifted, and the usual ways of coping no longer work. You don’t need to be in crisis to deserve a space to think it through.
When the ground shifts
Some of the changes men often bring to counselling:
- Work — a job loss, a career change, burnout, or a role that no longer fits.
- Retirement — losing structure, status and daily purpose all at once.
- Separation or divorce — rebuilding a life, a home and sometimes a relationship with your children.
- Becoming a father — or redefining what kind of father you want to be.
- Midlife and aging — questions about meaning, health, and what the next chapter is for.
- A move — starting over in a new city, province or country.
- Grief — the loss of a parent, a partner, a friend, or of a future you had imagined.
Why it can be hard to reach out
Many men learned early to handle things alone, to stay in control, and to keep going. Those strengths are real. But under pressure, distress often shows up as irritability, withdrawal, working harder, or simply feeling flat, rather than as sadness. It is easy to miss, and easy to put off.
What counselling looks like here
- We can start with what is concrete — the decision, the conflict, the change in front of you.
- You set the pace. Nothing has to be said before you are ready.
- The aim is not to change who you are, but to widen your options: understanding what you feel, how it affects your choices, and what kind of man you want to be from here.
- Strength and reliability stay; emotional awareness is added, not swapped in.
Why work with me
I have spent more than 30 years in human resources, leadership coaching and organizational change, and I have used brief therapy approaches since 1996, first in my coaching work. I know how closely work, role and identity are tied together for many men, and what it can mean when one of them gives way.
I offer sessions in English and in French.
Practical information
- 50-minute individual sessions, in person in Victoria or online anywhere in British Columbia
- $150 per 50-minute session, $220 per extended 75-minute session
- Coverage varies by plan. Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) usually offer 4 to 8 free sessions a year. Please check with your employer or insurer before booking.
More questions? See the FAQ, which has a section on support for men.
Choosing a counsellor is an important decision. Book a free 15-minute conversation to ask your questions and see if we’re a good fit.